I was wondering if anyone else had any experience with the following. I keep having these feelings of not “feeling right” in my clothes. I have always enjoyed fashion and I enjoy looking at others choices of clothing and thinking about why they chose them etc. Anyway, I have a quite a bit of clothing I bought because I loved it but then when I put it on to go out in it, it just doesn’t feel like me at all. It’s mainly skirts and dresses I have an issue with. I feel weird every time I put one on like I feel too feminine and it’s not right. (For context I am a cis woman.)
Has anyone else had that kind of feeling before? I’m confused because it causes me a great deal of distress when I’m getting dressed - which I don’t want! It’s not a sensory thing, I’m sure of that, as I don’t buy clothes that are uncomfortable to me.
Its also worth noting I do have big struggles identifying emotions.
Maybe it's not the clothing - Maybe it's anxiety about going out leading you to question your choices?
When I was younger I sometimes felt I’d “got it wrong” - I once went to a gig in a local pub in a little black cocktail style dress and heels with full make-up (most other people in jeans or casual) and another time went to a house party in a pair of cargo pants and a loose top, while a friend of mine turned up in a lovely dress which made me feel shabby. Also I chose a dress and heels for a Japan concert, which wasn’t exactly inappropriate but was extremely cold waiting in the queue to get in as it was in winter. I really should have worn trousers, socks & boots then!
I wear dresses, but hate the feel of tights so wear the dress over trousers instead.
You can try and learn what kind of dress is good for your body type. It helped me when I found out I had a pear body type. I only get dresses for pear shape body now.